Pets are our family
As a counsellor, I often witness the profound bond between people and their pets, and I can’t stress enough how pets play an essential role in our mental health. My pets have helped me through some particularly difficult times. For many of us, our pets are more than just animals—they are family. They offer unconditional love, companionship, and emotional support when we need it the most. The simple act of petting a dog or cat has been shown to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and improve mood. Their presence can be a source of comfort and stability, especially during times of personal difficulty.
One of the most significant benefits of having a pet is the sense of companionship they provide. Pets are known to reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation, making them invaluable, especially for those living alone or dealing with challenging mental health issues like anxiety or depression. The routine of caring for a pet offers structure to the day, which can be particularly helpful when life feels unpredictable or overwhelming. Whether it’s a walk in the park with a dog, cuddling up with a cat, or cleaning out a cage or tank, these moments offer us a break from our thoughts and allow us to focus on the present. They provide a sense of purpose.
Beyond just their presence, pets can be a source of joy and laughter, offering us a chance to reconnect with the lighter side of life. For many, the act of playing with or training a pet can bring a much-needed sense of achievement. Pets also have a unique way of sensing their owners' emotions, offering comfort during moments of distress without needing words. This emotional attunement can be incredibly grounding, providing us with an opportunity to feel supported during tough times.
However, the grieving process after losing a pet can often be misunderstood. I’ve had clients come to me, feeling guilty or ashamed about the intensity of their grief, because society sometimes downplays the emotional significance of pet loss. They may think, “It’s just a pet, why should I feel so devastated?” These feelings of guilt can be compounded if they encounter a counsellor who doesn’t understand the depth of the loss, perhaps thinking it shouldn’t be as impactful as the loss of a human family member.
But the truth is, the grief that comes from losing a pet should not be minimised. Pets occupy a deeply personal space in our lives, and their absence can leave a significant void. Just as we grieve the loss of human relationships, the loss of a pet can feel just as painful. In fact, for some, pets are often more present in their daily lives than certain family members, providing constant emotional support without judgement. Grieving the death of a pet is natural and should be treated with the same care and empathy as any other loss.
As counsellors, it’s crucial to recognise and honour the bond people have with their pets. Every loss matters, and the grief should be acknowledged without judgement. If you’re mourning the death of a pet, please know that your feelings are valid. You’re allowed to feel the weight of that loss, and you deserve support just as you would for any other family member.
